Anger Management

“I couldn’t stop myself. The anger was engulfing me.”

“For that moment I couldn’t think about anything else. I shouldn’t have burst out like that and I feel terrible about myself.”

“I was so angry that I couldn’t think of any better options. I should have given myself a second thought but its too late now.”

“I yelled at my friends and spoiled the whole moment.”

“I lashed at her and broke her phone.”

You might be familiar with at least one of these statements either as what you have said or maybe heard from someone whom you are very close to. We humans due to our everyday struggles and situations we tend to have a bad temper at times. But if you are a person with a short temper, let me say, this one is for you. Controlling anger is not easy. It is a struggle. Things fall off and you lose yourself when angry leaving you with nothing but guilt, regret, broken relations, and maybe even lack of respect, love and care. Let’s not deny that anger might be rooted from them too. But one simple question to yourself can bring in the motivation for anger management – Did anger make you feel any better?

Managing your anger brings you power beyond your imagination because it is an ability to control your emotions from flushing out through the wrong outlet and rather redirecting them for your own growth and betterment. Making it easier, it is nothing but being able to express oneself in the best possible way. Remember emotionally advancing is the most difficult challenge. It is definitely not as easy as writing a blog. But it is not impossible and you are not alone.

Are you a person who breaks things when you get angry? From now onwards, we decide not to be destructive. Remember to flee the scene that accelerates your anger. Not to drive but to find a spot or an activity to calm yourself. Always be conscious to avoid a situation that might trigger your bad temper. You sure know it if not just rewind and think what blame did you put upon your partner when you got angry. What was your hobby in school days? Don’t you find it so satisfying to watch a pottery making videos then why don’t you learn up? Sign up or engage yourself in activities that you once enjoyed or felt calm at. Go for that paintball game with your friends. Have a good movie night with your partner. Talk to those you have grudges with and let yourself breathe easier. Okay, let’s slow down a little. Maybe bake a cake. Don’t worry if gets burned, we are learning.

Self-help is the most extraordinary help. Now that sounds better than the best because it is. Anger management might take long but it is surely extraordinary. We humans are of high maintenance and our mind is like plants in the terrarium, they can survive in bad conditions but is fragile enough to be affected by the slightest change. Through anger management, you learn to have a reality check on yourself, overcome emotional dilemmas, stop being impulsive and overgeneralizing situations and foremostly learning to understand when to let things go and holding on to the thing you genuinely love becomes easier. See it’s only going to be beautiful at the end. No learning goes into waste. Each time you put an effort to polish yourself, it can be exhausting and might not see progress as the process is very abstract. But still, hold on to those you love and care and maybe together with them this journey would be a little less difficult. Best wishes to you buddy.